Here’s the Real Answer About How To Dress:

You can’t put on horrible looking clothes, look lousy and then expect to automatically get a ton of attention from women. Dressing nice is more of a stepping stone to attracting beautiful girls, and if you choose to skip this step, you can still get there, but with a lot more effort. It’s possible to attract beautiful women to you even when you’re not looking great but the whole process, especially at the earlier stages, is much more difficult.

Any dating coach will tell you that it’s worth it to maximize your appearance and to look as good as possible with the available funds that you have. Then, no matter how good you are at seduction, at least you’ll get the best possible results for your level of skill. If you aren’t looking your best, then you’re only making it more difficult for yourself.

So What EXACTLY Should You Wear?

The answer of what you should wear changes for everyone, but as a general rule you should wear whatever gives you the most confidence. If you feel great when you’re wearing a suit, then get the best suit you can possibly find. If you’re more along the lines of a cool guy, then wear cool clothes. You have to choose your style, and then wear the best clothes that you can find in that particular style. You don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars, as long as it’s fashionable and new, you’re set.

Like birds of a certain feather flock together, humans are the same way. If you dress cool, you’ll get cool girls, if you get classy, you’ll get classy… dress geeky, you’ll get geeky. The most successful guys I have ever seen always dress very nice mixed in with slightly kinky. You’ll notice that the hottest girls are drawn to this.

What You Should Put In Your Wardrobe

Here are some things that I would recommend every guy have in his repertoire. If dressing to attract women is your job, then here are the are most common tools of the trade.

• A few clean shirts that are well fitted. Not too tight so you can see your pecks, but definitely not loose. You want a nice, comfortable fit with no flab.
• Two or three pairs of designer jeans. Make sure they are in style, have a funky emblem on the back pocket and are not baggy. Women want to see what you have.
• Some clean dress shirts, always ironed and spotless.
• Nice brand new shoes. Dress shoes is preferred, but match your style. This is probably one of the most important things in your entire wardrobe. Women notice shoes!
• A few accessories, whatever fits your style. Do you have a nice watch, necklace… Goggles maybe? (hehe) Then wear them to differentiate yourself and stand out from the crowd.

As long as what you wear looks nice, clean and gives you more confidence, then you’re on the right track. Learning how to dress to attract women isn’t that hard if you do it step by step. Just try a combination of things one night and observe the results that you get. Then another night, wear something different and compare your reactions. Eventually you’ll figure out what clothes works the best for you. You just have to pay attention to the feedback you get from women and you’ll figure out what looks best on you pretty quickly.

My Confidence Building Process

Realize that building confidence takes a lot of time and practice. It’s not something that magically happens overnight, it’s something that takes anywhere from a few weeks to a few years to develop. If you’re looking to do it the fast way, and who isn’t, then the best way is to start by making friends with some girls. Wait.. isn’t that what I’m having issues with? No, you should be having issues with attractive girls. Find girls that you really aren’t interested in having an intimate relationship with, and befriend them! The mere act of being surrounded by females on a frequent basis will help you tremendously in being more comfortable around women. Having female friends is the number one way of being more comfortable with women. Just don’t fall in love with your female friends … although if you do, is that really such a bad thing?

The Closest Thing to a Quick Fix For Confidence

The next solid piece of advice is to go to the gym. That’s because how you feel physically is linked to how your mind feels about you in general. If you feel good after working out, and you always do, then your mind will feel good about you in general. It’s really not about the muscles or the health, it’s simply about feeling accomplished, energized and vibrant. Working out at the gym does this better than anything else in the world. In addition, the more you go to the gym, the more people will notice your appearance improve and therefore you’ll be getting compliments on more frequently.

Imagine how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of compliments every day?

If girls came up to you and said you looked good… wouldn’t that boost up your confidence pretty quickly? Yeah, I thought so.

#1 Go to the gym if you have a confidence issue.

The next way to be more confident with women is to be completely detached from the outcome. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to simply stop caring about what other people think. I know it can be hard. The trick is to concentrate on meeting people instead of trying to ‘win’ every interaction you have. If you’re just out to meet people instead of pursuing a specific objective, you’ll feel much more comfortable with yourself. You can’t be timid if you aren’t afraid of losing, and you can’t lose if you aren’t actively trying. Now I’m not saying don’t try to pick up women, I’m just saying that you shouldn’t feel as if you lost if an interaction doesn’t go as planned.

If you meet a woman and have a great time, then that’s fantastic. If you meet a girl and things don’t go as smoothly, then that’s fine as well. You shouldn’t worry about what a girl says, or what hundreds of girls say for that matter. That’s because they don’t truly know you, if they did, then they’d understand where you’re coming from.

Additional Comments About Gaining Confidence

At the end of the day, confidence doesn’t come easy. If I painted the picture that you can simply go to the gym and be confident, then I’d like to apologize because although that’s a great method, it won’t do it alone. Confidence is something you have to work on every single day. You will have to be rejected many times over to toughen you up, you’ll have to accomplish many feats that you never thought possible and eventually, you’ll be showered with compliments you never expected.

Hard work will solve any confidence issues, so get to it today.

From my experience, if you follow this advice on how to be more confident with women, then within a few weeks you’ll start noticing massive differences. This includes going to the gym, getting female friends and actively approaching women. If you don’t, then you can be as good looking as you want and you still won’t get any women.

The Best Compliments You Can Give

Usually the best compliments are when they are coming from another woman  since this tends to happen a lot less. If you’re going to throw in a neg instead of a compliment, then you can experiment by saying she looks a little older, or by simply asking if her nails are real, little things like that might make her chase you a little more for attention. However, when you throw a neg, make sure it’s not entirely negative.

Your negs should always be light and playful. If instead it comes off as an insult, you’re going the wrong way. Just try it as a social experiment and observe the results.

If you think that insulting women will help you pick up women, then you’re dead wrong. I think this is the first lesson that most guys learn when they start experimenting with negs. They usually go overboard and completely missing the point.

The Basic Human Needs

Instead, realize that humans have 5 emotional needs that need to be met in order to establish a deep rapport.

1. ATTENTION – We all need a little attention, and acknowledgment that we exist.
2. UNDERSTANDING – Even though it’s nice to know that others know we exist, we like having the feeling that others have an idea of how we feel about the world around us.
3. ACCEPTANCE – This means showing the person you value being with them,in spite of their behaviors and attitudes that might not be praiseworthy.
4. APPRECIATION – We like our good and redeeming qualities to be genuinely recognized.
5. AFFECTION – Reassurance that, in spite of comparisons with others, we’re still special.

If you decide to compliment on something that EVERYONE else compliments on then at the very worst it will sound fake and in the best case scenario you still haven’t done anything special to differentiate yourself from the other guys.

If a girl tells me “Hey, you’re really smart”, I think to myself… “Ok, so what? Everyone tells me that”. Instead, if it’s a compliment that I never hear, it will get my attention and make me want some more. So if you’re going to compliment women, find something that people don’t normally compliment on.

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1. To get the “pumped look”, you just need to do a few sets of weights right before going out.

2. You should always be clean shaven and wear a good lotion on your face like oil of Olay or Nivea’s skin firming.

3. If you can, wear colored contact lenses…..especially blue. You’ll have a bunch of girls talking to you if they look good.

4. Alright this one is a little out there, but you might want to try padded underwear if your butt is flat. I own 2 pairs and the last girl I was with knew about it and said it makes me look way better.

5. Make sure to wear nice shoes and a cool watch.

6. As far as style goes, the nicer the better. Most of the shirts I wear have a collar and most of my pants are khakis. That being said, a few years ago jeans were in so that trend might come back. Stick with what’s fashionable. 

7. One thing that really matters is a haircut. Just ask your hairdresser for something that would look good on you. They are usually pretty good at that sort of thing and if they aren’t, then you should change hair salon.

So what else should I do to look good ? Any other tips ?

Answer on looking good:

I for one noticed a huge difference when I dress better. I try to strike a balance between looking like I don’t care while still dressing nicely. I tend to lean more towards the dressy side, but I try not over do it. I have a friend who uses the “I don’t give care about my looks” look — but even his unkempt appearance is so calculated.

Walking the streets of New York city everyday when I go to my job, I get lots of looks. Especially when I dress better. I usually wear boot cut gap pants (get the cut called Hipster — I had two comments from hotties at work specifically about the pants.. this was the first day I wore them)

I have a nice pair of black square front Skechers with just a slightly chunky sole — not too much though, you don’t want to look like your wearing platforms. You can buy 300 dollar shoes, but most women won’t know the difference. If you feel better over-paying for a stupid piece of leather, go ahead. what really matters is that they are new and clean.

Also, if you you work out like I do and like to show it, get a shirt that fits snugly, but not too tight — and the sleeves shouldn’t be too short. You want to have just enough to have a little bicep showing. I listen to girls talk about this shit all the time in the lunchroom at the office. They think that tight shirts with super short sleeves can look a little gay. Girls like confidence, but modesty is hot also. There’s a Venezeulan girl at my office who says exactly what’s on her mind. She told me that she likes how she can see my shape under the shirt, but she can’t see what I had for lunch. It still depends on your personality…if you’re built like Wesley Snipes and like wearing a fitted shirt to show off your hard work, then go ahead, but MOST girls think it looks cheesy.

Funky button-down shirts are great also. Again, go in the middle somewhere — you don’t want to look like you’re in the Russian Mafia or something(with a big ass collar and wild colors, but don’t get one of those Macy’s button-down collar dress shirts either. H + M might be cheap, but if they don’t have some cool looking button-downs for about 20 bucks a pop.(not crazy about the rest of their stuff) I get sick when I look in the back of Maxim at their style section and see some disgruntled model wearing a $200 dollar t-shirt and a $450 dollar pair of pants.

A cool hair cut can’t hurt either.

If you care about your appearance, girls will notice.

Additional Tips on Looking Good:

Another look is preppy which is a dressy casual style. Short sleeve solid color polo knit shirts (white and navy are the classic colors), solid-color canvas short-sleeve shirts (stick with solids and you can wear strong colors without looking like a side show attraction), long sleeve button down white oxford cloth shirts; khakis in tan, olive, and black; thin wool sweaters in solid neutral colors.

Finally the other classic looks work too. Jeans that aren’t faded too much with a bright white T-shirt (with no logo or screen printing on it), or all black: black jeans, black T-shirt, black shoes. Just be sure all the blacks are the same shade or really close

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It’s as if she already knows what I’m going to say before I say it. She already knows she’s pretty and she’s used to having everyone remind of her of it. It feels as if she takes the compliment and adds it to a long list of previous heard compliments. I suppose that’s why she’s a little full of herself which puts her on a pedestal far beyond my reach.

My question is, if I’m going to be creating rapport and seducing attractive women, should I be complimenting her or not?

How can I make her feel flattered and at the same time have a real impact on her? I don’t want her to feel as if I’m just another guy complimenting her.

Answer:

Most writers on HowToSeduction will tell you that compliments should be used sparingly, like conversational spice.  An overload of them sounds unconvincing. Also, telling a beautiful woman that she is beautiful is fairly pointless. She’s been complimented on that aspect all her life. Try to find something else to compliment her on that isn’t physical.

For example, try telling her that she’s funny.  A lot of beautiful women never get complimented on that aspect of their personality.  Believe it or not, many of them crave being told that they are funny, clever or even witty.

I once met a very attractive woman which happened to be a fine dramatic actress.  I met her at a party and we talked a while about her acting career.  I asked her why she switched from comedy to drama and she replied that she was always drawn to trying to be funny and that people always wanted to hire her for her looks and not her sense of humor.

I was floored.  This attractive, Emmy-nominated, dramatic actress was desperate to show that she could be funny!  I also met her husband, that night.  I asked him what first drew him to her and he said: “She made me laugh.”   Think she’d have been as drawn to him if he had simply told her how pretty she was when they first met?

Compliment her taste in clothes, her sense of style.  Both of those come close to telling a woman she’s beautiful, but they stop just short. This is good.

I understand the urge to spew compliments like a lawn sprinkler.  I’m involved with someone now and sometimes it’s all I can do not to tell her that she is adorable.  But, I refrain.  I do tell her how she makes me laugh.  I tell her that she makes me think.  I tell her that talking to her is interesting and that she is a good conversationalist.

Even such compliments as those, I dole out cautiously.

Addition Comments:

You’re right, many men compliment beautiful women on being “pretty,” so one more from you is almost meaningless. Instead, try complimenting her on something specific that she won’t have heard before. “I love those earrings – where did you get them?” Many women, especially “beautiful” ones, work hard on their appearance – makeup, clothes, etc. are not thrown on in 5 minutes usually. To point out that you like some specific choice she made makes her feel good about it and makes her feel you are looking at her as more than just another piece of meat. Being sincere helps also. Don’t make up stuff you like about her that is not true.

Most hot women have been hit upon dozens if not hundreds of times by men, so conversation that starts/continues with “You’re a very beautiful woman!/you sure are gorgeous!” is more than likely going to set off alarm bells: “This is another pickup. Raise shields!” Everything else you say will have to get through that – not something you want. You need to disarm her first and seem different from all the
other slobs who want to get in her pants.

It’s my experience that some women will play it as though they’re uninterested, or that they talk to guys like you all the time (even if they don’t).

So sometimes they’re trying to downplay the impact of what you say or do, and sometimes they really have heard it all before.  I try not to say the same things, and make fresh conversations as often as possible.  Imagine hearing some woman say you’ve got “pretty eyes” 100 times a week.  It might
get a smile out of you the first few times, but it gets old the more you hear it.

I follow 2 rules regarding compliments.

#1 – Don’t sound like a game show host.  If you give too many compliments, they don’t work.

#2 – Look at her, listen to her.  Try to compliment on something she has gone out of her way to display for you.  For instance, if she’s wearing something unusual, compliment on it.  If she’s shoving her tits in your face, talk about them.

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