I strongly recommend reading the book Good Openers
In our fast paced world, having a few good openers is essential if you plan on being successful in seduction. That’s because a lot of the time when you’re going about your day, you’ll see a beautiful woman and your mind will go absolutely blank. Having a few good openers prepared in advance will allow you to go in and open the conversation without even thinking. This is especially important for guys that have approach anxiety because the longer you think about it, the least likely you are to approach a girl.
Before we dive into what a good and bad opener is, let’s go over the purpose of an opener. The purpose of an opener is to simply start a conversation. It’s the ice-breaker, the attention getter that will get you and the girl into a conversation. Usually openers are only a few seconds long, after that you’re into routines, stories and games. The big fallacy that most guys follow is that they try to cram everything into an opener. They try to build attraction, qualify, build comfort and attraction all at the same time… Stop! Just say something that starts a conversation and THEN take it from there.
So what makes a good opener?
Well for the reason above, simply saying “Hi” does work. Sure it’s not very original, but what really matters is what follows after. In fact, there was a group of pick up artists that went out to prove that openers really didn’t matter so they had a little event where they opened all night with the strangest, most ludicrous openers imaginable. You’d have a guy go up to a girl and say: “Hey I lost my friend” and then start talking from there. That was relatively normal, but others such as “Hi, I’m an alien from outer space and I’m here to abduct you” worked just as well.
In essence, anything you say can be a good opener as long as it captures attention.
Here are some of the best openers:
- Hey there (not very classy, I know)
- Hey I have a quick question before I get back to my friends… Who lies more? Men or women ? (overused)
- Did you see the two girls fighting outside? Yeah, they were fighting over a guy.
- Hi, I’m from (interesting place) and I’m just wondering if people are friendly here.
I’d love to hear from the community. If you have a good opener, then please add it in the comments.
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I liked the last one! 
Here’s a good opener and as far as I’m concerned it’s the best one I’ve heard. It’s a matter of being honest, playful and it also builds attraction.
“Hi! I know this might sound a little strange but I noticed you and I just had to come over and say Hi. You’re really cute” My name is (insert_name)” The key is to say this with a smile, and if the opportunity is there don’t miss your opportunity to tease her a bit. It kills the “awkwardness of your approach, but it also shows that you’re being honest and confident. Body language also helps a lot try to put yourself in a position where you are equally, or more relaxed than her.
I just have one problem with this, I’m in school so if i get rejected i have to see the girl everyday, so does anyone have any good openers for that????
if you are in school then an opener is probably too hard to conduct. If you are funny, witty, smart, and have some status during conversations with her then she will naturally become attracted to you. Openers is more of an approach in the outside world. I was funny and had a lot of status and girls were just naturally attracted to me.
(1)g-day (pause and turn your head slightly to the side and give a cheeky grin)
have you got any australian in you ….
(2) hi (pause)
(lean towards them and talk in a quiet voice) have you ever blacked’out after sleeping with someone (then just walk away 8 times out of ten they will sooner or later walk up to you and asked why or what did you say) then with a sly smile say- well i was just wondering if it was just me or did other men have the same affect on women
1.Hey my buddy just gotta puppy and asked my opinion so and I just want to ask you should he name the puppy “chachi” or”fonzie” yeah there both names from that tv show happy days. 2. She’ll smile or laugh and then ask what type of dog. Make~up some breed and wild color and then respond by saying “Omg your nose wiggles when you talk…aww thats cute. No please say something else.” 3. Begin to look around as if you have lost interest and then slightly touch her arm and say “I’ve gotta catch up with my friends but I would really like to continue this conversation.” Unless you talk like Forrest Gump or look like Shaquille O’neal she’ll respond with “I can give you my number” or “let me give you my number”. FYI only perform this one at a grocery store, bookstore, or shopping mall. FYI don’t be talking about dogs at the nightclub!
hey,
nice smile you have there…
wanna see mine?
approach the girl,
and say “Hey,see that guy over there, (point at some random guy) he’s a fortune-teller..
He told me I’d be talking to a very attractive girl right about…. (pretend like checking the time on your watch) now.. and smile at her.
trust me it works.
im a high school thats trying to get his game right with girls…. but unfortunately when i start talking i choke then forget what to say. any pointers????
heyyy i think suddenly is an good operner because its an suspence operner on it could be in the middle as well and i think speech is an good one and names thats my opinion xx
my personal favorite opener at a bar is this one:
-if the girl is drinking…
“you know, you can tell a lot about the person by what theyre drinking”
if she responds positively and doesnt blow you off, she will ask how, or why.
you can respond to this however you want, but heres an example of what ive said in the past.
“if its a cocktail or fruity drink, the person has a sweet tooth and enjoys tropical weather. if it’s a beer, theyre playing it casual and safe. if its wine, they like to think of themselves as classy. if its a hard spirit or on the rocks, they’re borderline alcoholics. Unfortunately for you, i mix.
Another great one that can either cockblock you or help break the ice is at the bar, you make eye contact with the girl and ask her if she wants a “little cheeky tequila”. Add cheeky in front of anything and it legitimizes what you say in a playful way.
Nice legs. What time do they open?
OR
It may be a needle but it moves like a sewing machine
Hi! Waiting for someone to save you? (my favourite
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